Comments on: Unconditional Parenting http://blog.lifecourse.com/2009/10/unconditional-parenting/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=rss Neil Howe's Generational Blog Thu, 12 Jan 2012 00:37:00 +0000 hourly 1 By: BoomerXer http://blog.lifecourse.com/2009/10/unconditional-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1600 BoomerXer Sat, 28 Nov 2009 17:40:38 +0000 http://blog.lifecourse.com/?p=192#comment-1600 @ XerMom <br> I don't think Mr. Howe is accusing Xers of moral bankruptcy so much as noting a subtle shift in parenting focus from the self-conscious virtue of Boomers (which is something they try hard to project onto everyone and everything - not just their children) to the more pragmatic, but protective nuture of Xers. Of course, Xers want to instill their children with virtues, but it certainly isn't the same instillation of virtues as the "Hey-look-at-me-I'm-so-righteous-and-so-are-my-kids" kind that most Boomers used. There is a difference there. @ XerMom
I don't think Mr. Howe is accusing Xers of moral bankruptcy so much as noting a subtle shift in parenting focus from the self-conscious virtue of Boomers (which is something they try hard to project onto everyone and everything – not just their children) to the more pragmatic, but protective nuture of Xers. Of course, Xers want to instill their children with virtues, but it certainly isn't the same instillation of virtues as the "Hey-look-at-me-I'm-so-righteous-and-so-are-my-kids" kind that most Boomers used. There is a difference there.

]]> By: BoomerXer http://blog.lifecourse.com/2009/10/unconditional-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1403 BoomerXer Sat, 24 Oct 2009 12:30:38 +0000 http://blog.lifecourse.com/?p=192#comment-1403 @ XerMom I don't think Mr. Howe is accusing Xers of moral bankruptcy so much as noting a subtle shift in parenting focus from the self-conscious virtue of Boomers (which is something they try hard to project onto everyone and everything - not just their children) to the more pragmatic, but protective nuture of Xers. Of course, Xers want to instill their children with virtues, but it certainly isn't the same instillation of virtues as the "Hey-look-at-me-I'm-so-righteous-and-so-are-my-kids" kind that most Boomers used. There is a difference there. @ XerMom
I don't think Mr. Howe is accusing Xers of moral bankruptcy so much as noting a subtle shift in parenting focus from the self-conscious virtue of Boomers (which is something they try hard to project onto everyone and everything – not just their children) to the more pragmatic, but protective nuture of Xers. Of course, Xers want to instill their children with virtues, but it certainly isn't the same instillation of virtues as the "Hey-look-at-me-I'm-so-righteous-and-so-are-my-kids" kind that most Boomers used. There is a difference there.

]]> By: BoomerXer http://blog.lifecourse.com/2009/10/unconditional-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1431 BoomerXer Sat, 24 Oct 2009 12:02:16 +0000 http://blog.lifecourse.com/?p=192#comment-1431 Wow, Mr. Kohn sounds a lot like Dr. Spock! I wonder....could Mr. Kohn - or one of his followers be the next Dr. Spock? I realize this is something Mr. Howe probably doesn't want to contemplate at this point, but the current Hero/Artist nurture paradigm is probably set to expire sometime in what? Ten, twelve - fifteen years...at the most? Of course, Dr. Spock didn't materialize out of thin air in 1946 - I'm sure he probably held similar views in 1936 or earlier. So, I'm just sayin'... ;) Another interesting article in the NYT I saw over the weekend is "For Some Parents, Shouting is the New Spanking." Wow, Mr. Kohn sounds a lot like Dr. Spock! I wonder….could Mr. Kohn – or one of his followers be the next Dr. Spock? I realize this is something Mr. Howe probably doesn't want to contemplate at this point, but the current Hero/Artist nurture paradigm is probably set to expire sometime in what? Ten, twelve – fifteen years…at the most? Of course, Dr. Spock didn't materialize out of thin air in 1946 – I'm sure he probably held similar views in 1936 or earlier. So, I'm just sayin'… ;)

Another interesting article in the NYT I saw over the weekend is "For Some Parents, Shouting is the New Spanking."

]]> By: XerMom http://blog.lifecourse.com/2009/10/unconditional-parenting/comment-page-1/#comment-1457 XerMom Tue, 20 Oct 2009 21:02:28 +0000 http://blog.lifecourse.com/?p=192#comment-1457 I really felt the need to respond. I'm not quite sure how to read the assessment that GenXers are raising their children, not with focus on inner qualities, but to have "long-term odds of success." As a mother I do take a bit of offense to that. I feel that, again, my generation is being identified as having strong elements of moral bankruptcy. Of course I'm teaching my children virtues, and of course my desire to do so is strong, as is the desire of the other parents I know. I really felt the need to respond. I'm not quite sure how to read the assessment that GenXers are raising their children, not with focus on inner qualities, but to have "long-term odds of success." As a mother I do take a bit of offense to that. I feel that, again, my generation is being identified as having strong elements of moral bankruptcy. Of course I'm teaching my children virtues, and of course my desire to do so is strong, as is the desire of the other parents I know.

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